So you want to find a woman. Let’s get straight to it and start tackling the real issues. To begin with, you must have confidence. You can think of it as a secret weapon. You are like a Knight without Armor if you don’t have it. Learn how to find a girlfriend.
Be Yourself but Bettera
Probably you’ve heard “just being yourself” before. Although it’s a great piece of advice, let’s give it a twist and say: be the best possible version of yourself. You should work on your hobbies and interests. Playing guitar or cooking up some delicious food in the oven? Let those passions show. Confidence is easy when you are enjoying what you’re doing.
Dress the Part
Imagine going for an interview wearing pajamas. This also applies to dating. Don’t dress like James Bond. But make sure to put in some effort. You can make a huge difference by wearing clean clothes, maintaining good hygiene, or even spraying cologne.
Master Small Talk
Sometime, it can be hard to get started in a discussion. Here’s an idea: Ask questions with multiple options that don’t just require a “yes” and “no”. As an example, rather than asking her if music is something she enjoys (duh), you could ask what type of music and why she likes it. This can open up a conversation.
Listen More than You Speak
Two ears and a mouth are there for a purpose! Show genuine concern for what she has to say. You can nod, keep eye contact, or make a few relevant remarks. It shows you care about her opinion and thoughts.
Humor Is Your Friend
A good joke can help break the ice quicker than any other method. Allow jokes to flow as they naturally occur in the conversation. You can also use self-deprecating humor to show your humility and become more relatable.
Plan Fun Dates
Dinner dates have been around for a long time, but they get boring quickly. Think outside of the box! Visit an art gallery, go on a hike, or visit that quirky café downtown where board games are scattered. Experiences shared together create lasting memories.
Respect others
This should go without saying but respect is paramount in any relationship-building process. Respect her time, by being punctual. Respect the space she has by not being clingy. Respect boundaries by refusing to push topics that are uncomfortable for her.
Stay Positive
A Negative Nancy, or a Pessimistic Pete is not liked by anyone! Keep your conversations lighthearted to begin with; you can move on to more serious topics later after you’ve developed a rapport.
Show Genuine Enthusiasm
Engage her! You can show her that you are interested in what she is saying by asking follow-up questions.
Patience and patience is key
Rome wasn’t made in a morning, and neither are meaningful connections! You should not rush headlong into romantic territory after meeting someone.
I’ll share an example: Once, I knew a man who was madly in love with his crush. He texted her at every hour of the hour for the first 24 hours. They never went on more than the second date, because he appeared desperate instead of interested.
It is important to take into consideration how she reacts both verbally & in a non-verbal manner before making grand gestures and declarations of affection!
Dating isn’t rocket surgery, but it may sometimes seem like you’re trying to solve Rubik’s Cube with mittens and blindfolded. Keep these tips in mind & you will navigate the dating world just fine.
So, go ahead and grab life by the horns!